Last week I was out with a few moms when a little kid asked, "Do all of you breast-feed?". Well, that was followed by an awkward silence as the moms turned to me with looks of pity. Then one mom finally said sadly, "No, not everyone." I chimed in and said, "That's right; I bottle-feed."
I KNOW that these moms didn't mean anything by it, but I can't help feeling a bit annoyed. They all seemed to pity me for having to formula-feed PK. But why should they pity me? PK is a happy and healthy baby who is developing quite nicely, thank-you very much. Yes, breast-feeding is great. It's fast, it's convenient, and it's good for the baby. But formula-feeding isn't evil. New moms are made to get so worked up over breast-feeding that it's probably the single most stressful thing about being a new mom. We who formula-feed are not evil people. We are not mean people, and we are certainly not depriving our babies in any way for doing so. Sometimes life deals us cards that we don't expect and we need to roll with the punches.
Unfortunately, the way that these moms reacted to the toddler's question is partly my fault. After all, I always seem to be justifying my decision to formula-feed PK. Well, no more. I formula-feed PK and I'm okay with it. So there!
Raising a Screen Smart Kid on NPR
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