Today I came across this article on Facebook. A FB friend has actually scanned the article and posted it as her profile picture. Naturally, I was compelled to check it out. And when I realized that it was a full-on newspaper article, I decided to read it. It's basically an advice column, where a reader was asking how in the world her friends with kids (reader had no kids) never seemed to have time for her friends. The columnist is downright blunt, as she goes about explaining why oh why moms are so freaking exhausted at the end of the day, and that when they finally do have a minute to themselves, the last thing they want to do is pick up a phone for a chat.
I have to be honest that when I had no kids, I had NO IDEA just how much work it is to be a parent. Between the diaper changes (or in our case, trips to the toilet, which are an extremely exhausting affair), feeding them, entertaining them, putting them to bed, and running after them making sure that they don't try to kill themselves, it's a lot of work. I work all day, so I get the "lite" version of child-rearing on weekdays, and am grateful that the hubby is around on weekends so that we can team up. I can't even imagine how hard it is for a stay-at-home parent. Mindy you, after an exhausting day at work, the last thing you want is to tend to the needs of your child, even WITH help from your spouse. Still, they're your kids and they need you, so you can't very well ignore them. At least that's not what normal people do.
My sister doesn't have kids, and has been considering having kids maybe a couple of years down the road. Then, she spends a couple of hours with PK and leaves absolutely exhausted, questioning whether or not she has the energy for a kid. And she's three years younger than I am.
The point is, having a child is exhausting, and the columnist pretty much summed it all up very well in her article. If you're a parent, you can totally relate. If you're not a parent, hopefully this puts things a bit into perspective - and doesn't scare you if you're planning on someday having kids.
Raising A Screen Smart Kid in The New York Times
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