September 9, 2010

Potty Woes

PK had been doing a totally AWESOME job with potty-training. And then, we started to have some regression. It started all of a sudden one weekend a couple of weeks ago. She started refusing to sit on the toilet. We were visiting the in-laws that weekend, and the only time that she wanted to go was if my mother-in-law took her. At least she produced, which was good. What wasn't good was the fact that she was being so defiant. One night was really bad, where she threw a full-out tantrum, and I, being the patient (yeah, right) person that I am, made her sit on the toilet for a good 30 or 45 minutes before bedtime. Needless to say, bedtime was significantly delayed, she cried a lot, AND she refused to pee.

Things got a bit better since then. She still goes to the bathroom and produces pee, but it is much more of a struggle. She still fights us to sit on the toilet, although it could be worse. And whereas she used to tell us when she needed to poop, she's now regressed to telling us maybe 50 or 60% of the time. The rest of the time, we get her on the toilet after we see her grunting. We are mostly successful, but we've had some in-underwear accidents more recently. Totally gross.

She has recently become obsessed with the change pad in her room (which we haven't used for several months now). She asked the other day to be changed at a change station in a public washroom. I did not give in, by the way.

Now for the odd part. She absolutely positively LOVES public washrooms. She we went out to brunch last Sunday, and in the span of an hour or so, she made us take her to the washroom SIX TIMES. She produced 4 out of 6 times, one of which was a poop. Fortunately the hubby and I were able to alternate, because doing this all by myself can be VERY tiring. Not to mention annoying. And although I wanted to ignore her and tell her to shut up and eat her food (oh, so tempting), I indulged her every time, because the potty situation is rather precarious right now and I don't want to discourage her from going in public. Still...it sucks.

I'm not really sure what's going on here, and it's really annoying the crap out of me. We were making some awesome progress since about May or June, and all of a sudden, she decides that doing her business in her diaper is a lot more fun. At first I thought that this behavior was brought on by the fact that we'd gotten a tad too comfortable with things. We always assumed that she'd tell us when she needed to go, because that's what she was doing. So I made sure to be more vigilant and try to anticipate when she needs to go to the bathroom.

But I don't think that that was the root cause. I actually thing it has something to do with PK's new obsession with babies. She got two baby dolls for her birthday, and she loooooooooooves taking care of them. She's pretty good too. She'll pick them up and caress them and kiss them. She loves putting them to sleep, giving them a bath, and changing their diapers. And it's this obsession with changing her babies' diapers which may have brought on this bizarre behavior. She's really into taking off the diaper, saying it's dirty, and then putting on a "clean" one. I wonder if this whole obsession with babies is triggering some past memories of when she was a baby. Does she miss being a baby? Does she want to be more like her babies? If it's the latter, then I think it's high time that we put on some underwear on these babies and start potty-training them, because they're really messing with my work here!

1 comment:

Fawn said...

First, since you are a germaphobe, I have to ask if you've discovered the tiny packages of disposable toilet seat covers that fit into your purse? I found them at Wal-Mart, made by Charmin. Handy!

Second, it is very normal for kids to (temporarily!) regress with potty-training. Jade is fully toilet trained now (thank God!) but still has times she refuses to go (because she "doesn't need to") and then has accidents.

More applicable to your situation, my nanny's 2-year-old has been potty-trained for about 6 months, but last month went through a period of tantrums and refusing to use the potty. She even peed the bed 4 or 5 times during naps (twice when she was at our house - oh joy!). Clearly she still has bladder control and the ability to identify when she wants to go. More likely, it is about personal control and making independent decisions.

I've lost my temper with Jade's accidents, too, but it really doesn't help anything. *sigh* (Serenity now, serenity now, serenity now!) Hang in there -- this stage will pass soon enough!